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  1. Right now, I'm feeling a little bit of a thrill--nourishing defiance--from calling out of work. Hopefully, I can carry this feeling through tomorrow.
  2. I started reading Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean M. Auel. I've had The Last of the Mohicans on my nightstand to read since October, but James Fennimore Cooper is tough, man. I'm kind of avoiding that. Clan of the Cave Bear is ok. I read it many years ago. Her concept is very interesting. She speculates about the earliest times of humanity, when modern humans and Neanderthals shared the earth. It's Jean M. Auel's first novel, and I think it shows a little in the way that she writes. She's very matter-of-fact. She doesn't really have craftsmanship, the way that Stephen King does.
  3. That's very scary 😨 Hope things resolve in a positive way... Keep us posted.
  4. I was like that in my teens, into my 20s. I probably could have stayed like that beyond my 20s if I didn't see the error of my ways. But I did see my mistake, and I took steps to correct it. I'm not like that anymore.
  5. In a weird way, getting a job is a lot like dating. You meet someone, they look interesting, you're both on your best behavior. You get to know each other, find out what you have in common... Or at least you think you're finding out what you have in common.... Then, a couple months down the road, you find out that things aren't quite the way they were represented to be. How can you ever tell ahead of time that it's not going to be a good fit? You really can't. People are good a putting on an act to get what they want. Many (perhaps most) times, they even believe thei
  6. Yeah. Dang. Technically, I'm in a position of power because I'm employed. But my anxious mind doesn't let me feel that. I haven't responded. I don't really know what to say. "Ok," is too permissive, and "W T F does 'shortly' mean?" is too desperate. And maybe a little aggressive. I'm stuck 😅
  7. Yes, exactly. At my last job, yes. I worked for a bee with an itch. But at this job, Kasey is one of the co-owners. She couldn't do that if she wanted to! Also, she doesn't strike me as passive aggressive, just a little clueless and..... generally absent. However, Simon and Kasey both blame other people for their own errors. That's a big problem. On the job I'm on right now, I've watched them change their story repeatedly. Just today, it was structure. Last week, they said wood was a bad choice; this week it's a good choice. I feel like I'm going crazy; I'm not kid
  8. I know. People have said to me about my beadwork, "Why don't you sell this? You could sell this!" I'm like, are you kidding me? Sure, if people were paying $3000 per necklace--no problem! But that's not what people are going to pay.
  9. Yeah, here the real estate market is way up. Good for sellers. Not so much for buyers.
  10. ARGH. W T F does "shortly" mean? I wish he'd predicated his last message on the fact that his hiring was contingent on these two projects. Maaaaaaaan. I hate getting my hopes up like this. It makes my current job seem even worse than it already was. Emotions are so annoying!!!
  11. Wow. I know that had to be hard. Well, I think you've done what's best for you, best for the kids, best for her. What a difficult situation. Sending you (((((((((hugs))))))))).
  12. You have volume on your side, and a steady influx of potential suitors. Why get hung up waiting around for one guy to get himself together? Especially one that's still living with his ex? Surely someone better will come along.
  13. I think men do this for the same reason that women do it: they are multi-dating and not in a rush to settle down with any one person. When you see this happening, it's time to move on. Despite what they may say on their dating profile, despite how fun the dates were, a committed, long term relationship is not their priority.
  14. I hope you realize that it's not necessarily you. Not saying you're perfect, but it is very common for people to blame other people for the problems they are having. Then they align everything in their perception to reinforce that belief. When that happens, that's pretty much it for you. And it sucks. You have to remind yourself that every problem is fixable. Some people don't want to fix problems because it means they have to acknowledge their own failings. And they don't want to do that. I know it's crazy-making, but sometimes you just have to walk away and let them have their fantasy.
  15. The problem is that you are unable to moderate your alcohol consumption, not that you hate moderation. I'm willing to bet that there are plenty of other activities that you enjoy doing, and that you don't compulsively, addictively engage in these other activities. You don't have any problem with moderation, as long as you don't have to moderate your use of alcohol. There is a lot on the line here. You aren't a single woman who will deteriorate and die alone and be forgotten. You have a husband and a child who will watch it happen. It could take 20 - 30 years for you to fully kill you
  16. Noise does it for me, too. Most especially the noise of people talking and interacting. My mom noticed it when I was a baby. I was generally very quiet and calm, and didn't cry much. A perfect baby, she said (especially as compared to my sister lol). But if my mom had guests over, say for Thanksgiving or Christmas, that noise and excitement would knock me off-kilter. I'd cry and be fussy for a couple days after. Then I'd return to peacefulness. I'm still like that a little bit, now. I go out to restaurants, and I go out and see friends and family, but I do find it draining to be around al
  17. That could be a triple whammy: a MILF, a GILF, and GGILF.
  18. Might as well send messages anyway. It might take them a while to respond, but you have a better chance of talking to someone sooner (rather than later) if you reach out now.
  19. No, not all relationships are this hard. You are having this problem because you are settling for less than what you want in a relationship. Your goal is to build a family. His goal is to avoid marriage. Are you going to change what you want? Why do you expect him to change what he wants? Him being with you doesn't imply that he wants to get married. Similarly, you being with him doesn't imply that you no longer want to build a family. You both have completely different relationship goals, and you are both actually settling for less. If you want to be happy in a relati
  20. I think you're doing the right thing for yourself. Sam is also entitled to her feelings. But ultimately, you have to do what's best for you, not only what makes Sam happy.
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