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  1. Yeah, I agree with friendship thing, it never works so it is out of a window. She reached out to me again today and said she likes me (probably friendly vibes, idk) and enjoys her time with me so a same wishy washy goes on. I guess she is stringing me along but I simply can`t stomach this ride anymore. I told her that if we are not in a same page, we should separate our ways for now just for the sake of sanity. I don`t know but I feel this could be the end (for now).
  2. I think after receiving so many good advices it is worth to give a short follow up. We finally met up for a long dinner which went great. She kissed me after date and said she wanted to meet me again. So today, couple days after our date, I asked her if she was available after christmas for a next date. I actually got semi-ghosted for a day (she was online but ignored my message, she usually replies very fast) which kinda got me surprised given how we ended our last date. To be honest, I got a bad feeling of this ”semi-ghosting”. She finally texted me and told me she had a great
  3. So I have suffered from anxiety and insecurities for pretty much all of my life. I have had relationships here and there, but not LTR. While I have been somewhat lonely for years, I have been able to enjoy life with friends and managed to make success in a career. I finally felt that I was in a place in my life where I could consider romantic relationships and live stable, normal life. Especially I felt I was finally emotionally ready to face possible rejections and keep my emotions in check whatever happens. It turns out I was wrong, very wrong. I feel quite a few women were interested i
  4. I should have been more clear about this in my previous posts. We lived in a same city about 15 years ago. We met at a bar like many youngsters did back then we spent a night together few times but kept it casual otherwise. I think she was more into me than I was into her back then. We both moved to different cities and lived our lives, but during these years she sometimes reached out to me and asked how I was doing in my life and if I still remember her. I believe she cared about me but not sure if those feelings were romantical. She came to my mind briefly at some point in my life but
  5. I think you are spot on. She surely is unsure of many things, maybe about herself too. She is divorced after 8 years of marriage and has been single for roughly for 1,5 years now. She told me she was very unhappy with her marriage and maybe lost herself a bit. But we do have chemistry here but I am afraid the major obstacle is the timing - I am ready for relationship (in general) and maybe she is not, at least not for now. I try to keep my head in check but to be honest, this is not typical Tinder-match which is easy to dump and forget (I try to answer that in another post).
  6. I took a long break from relationships because I wanted to focus on me (personal growth and finding who I really was) as well as focus on career. It has been 5 years since I had longer relationship but I totally feel first time in my life that I am in a place in my life where I could start family. However, I have always suffered from anxiety which is not good when you try to meet new people and establish romantic feelings. I usually manage to keep these lingering feelings very well in check but maybe this time it got better off me.
  7. I agree it is slow what comes to meeting each other but we live in different cities and corona makes everything so much more difficult albeit not impossible. She said she is super busy right now (she will meet her parents and some friends) but would be able make it in 2 weeks if it is ok to me. I think your reply is valuable and I try to keep advice in my mind now and in a future. I guess in general finding a right balance of doing just right (not too much, not too little) can be a very challenging if there is a distance between parties and you dont get many chances anyway. I don´t blame
  8. Thanks, I actually told her that I was looking for something real and long lasting when I made Tinder-profile. Point taken, it was just second date and I would also say it was too soon but changes in her actions (communication) made me a bit anxious and because I let my feelings to develop too soon, I felt the urge to ask her. If there was no changes how she communicates, I would not have asked about that. However, I kinda feel trapped in a limbo right now. Should I be the one to initiate convo or should the dust settle first a bit? Maybe let her do the texting first?
  9. I think she did not want to have sex but was looking for just affection which was totally fine with me. I could be wrong of course. We cuddled a ton though. While I asked how she feels, I first told her I really like her and I would be pretty much ready to go exclusive down the road but she was not feeling that. I kinda blame myself but I am not sure what I did wrong. I was bit anxious during date so that might be the reason.. At the same time the insecure part of me thinks she might have found someone else interesting (we do live in Tinder-era and these things happen) and I was dro
  10. So I (35M) met a very nice girl on Tinder 1,5 months ago. We already knew each other from over 10 years ago but have not talked since we were younger. Our conversation was awesome from the very beginning, she initiated conversations, shared pictures of her daily life etc. After the first date she said she definately wanted to meet again and so we did. I spent a evening and night with her (no sex) and it was wonderful, I actually think I let myself fall in love with her at that point. I thought we were moving in a good direction but I started to get other thoughts very soon. After I spent
  11. I read your thread and I find lots of resemblances We have been out for dates two times now (I did not count lunches as dates because of agenda). First we went out for dinner and on a second date we had wine tasting and spent hours talking. I feel I would love to have her initiate something. That is something I need but I understand that´s not how things always goes. This is obviously my insecurities talking but on the other hand it is there to protect me.
  12. Hello everyone, I have not been dating anyone for 6 years straight since my last break up. I am in my 30´s and people compliment me nice looking, polite and nice to people in general. I come off as confident and easy going but whenever my heart is at a stake, I become very shy, cautious and a bit anxious. So anyway, I thought I can't stay under a rock forever and prepared myself mentally to get back in a dating scene. I have met a nice girl who I knew 15 years ago. We have met a few times at lunch and also had a dates in a past two weekends. Although things seemed to go nicely, we nev
  13. I just wanted to clarify that my texts were neutral as well. I did not say I wanted her back ( I have not said that even for once directly) but those messages were more likely to make things more civil between us. Like I told you, I am not sure that I want to get back together with her even though she is special to me. Being in total NC made me feel resentful towards her so that´s why I wanted to break the ice. I kind of disagree that contacting her made me look unattractive. I send these kind of messages every now and then to my old friends to catch up ( and sometimes to ex-GFs as well).
  14. My best friend talked with her 3 months ago and he told me she was thinking that I do not want talk with her never again (initiating NC right after breakup and being a distant to her might have supported that thought). So that´s why I was thinking that she might think I hate her. Anyway, now she knows that I do not hate her and I am ready to talk again if that is what she wants. That is all I can and want to do at the moment.
  15. Hi guys. So I did not break NC two months ago but instead I did it today after 5,5 months of NC. I don´t know what I was thinking but I really felt that I needed to do that. Right know I feel I have done tremendous mistake. I sent her short and simple text where I asked how she is doing. I got a very neutral answer back where she asked how i was doing. I answered to her and have not heard from her since that message. I feel a bit crap about this because I thought she might want to hear from me after period of NC but I was so wrong. I got nothing but a very neutral text from her and ignored
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