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It’s a long one so I apologise... but I really hope someone can help me here because I can’t cope..

 

香蕉视频app网 Ladies I need some advice. I’m posting anonymously because there’s people in this group who I know and I don’t want them to know my business as it’s really personal.

 

香蕉视频app网 It’s so sad posting this on Valentine’s Day.. 

I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years. Our relationship started off very very fast. With him moving in with me after 3 months. I didn’t really want him to move in tbh. But I didn’t have a choice because he was going to lose his place and had no money to go anywhere else and obviously, I wasn’t going to see him on the streets so I let him move in. 

It helped me out too because I was struggling badly to keep up with my rent and bills. So at the time, as much as I thought it was too soon and I wasn’t overly keen on the idea, it kind of helped us both out.

香蕉视频app网 We agreed that it would be for a trial basis and if it wasn’t working, he would save and find somewhere else on his own.

 

During our time together, things have gone downhill. It’s turned into one thing after another. 

He got sacked from work for theft. 

香蕉视频app网 What he didn’t tell me is, he owed money to some dodgy people and couldn’t pay them back, so he was robbing the tills at work little by little over a long period of time to be able to pay these guys back. 

He got caught obviously and lost his job. I was furious with him because he worked in the local area so it was people I knew and because I saw him in a light I didn’t like. I thought he was a good guy and I didn’t expect it from him... 

I was embarrassed and ashamed. People thought I was in on it, that I knew. (I didn’t) Eventually we moved on from that, and I made him pay back the money monthly until it was all paid back.

 

After that it got worse and worse. 

He started lying about dumb things all the time. Things that would be pointless lying about, but used to drive me crazy. And he kept borrowing money from people and not telling me. Then those people would eventually come and tell me because he wasn’t paying their money back. 

香蕉视频app网 It just got really out of hand. He was then losing his temper all the time. Kicking off at the slightest thing. He was making my nerves bad because I never knew what sort of mood he was going to be in.

In the end I said to him he needs to see someone because I can’t cope with all the lies.

So he agreed, and he went to see a therapist. After quite a few sessions, they diagnosed him with PTSD from a trauma he experienced a few years before. 

So I was thinking, things will get better now because we now know what the issue is and he’s getting help for that issue. 

But then corona virus hit, and his therapist had to drop him because she was helping people deal with the virus and people who have lost family members due to covid. 

香蕉视频app网 Due to that reason, he went back to the doctors and they put him on medication to help with his moods.

香蕉视频app网 They didn’t help. He got worse and worse. I begged and pleaded with him to change otherwise our relationship won’t last and my feelings will change. I said if this carries on, you’ll lose me. And he always promised to change but it never happened.

All while this was happening, my mum died and I was sexually assaulted by someone at work. So it was just all happening at once. 

 

香蕉视频app网 I had a lot to deal with.

 

香蕉视频app网 Bringing us to now. Because it’s been so long of constant sh*t, my feelings towards him have changed. 

I don’t love him anymore. 

We haven’t slept together in over a year, and I don’t want too either. 

香蕉视频app网 The thought of sex with him now makes me feel weird. I just don’t feel that way anymore. I’ve told him how I feel now and he’s heartbroken. He cried. 

 

香蕉视频app网 We discussed what to do now. Where to go from here. And he said he loves me so much, he’s willing to just carry on as we are if it means we can be together. 

Problem is, financially, neither on us can afford to live apart. I’ve worked out my wages and I get just over £900 a month roughly. 

After rent and bills, it would leave me with £20 for the whole month to buy food and toiletries and that’s without anything else I might need. I wouldn’t be able to survive.. 

I wouldn’t have any type of life. Not that I do now but even if I put myself out there and made friends, I wouldn’t be able to do anything. 

香蕉视频app网 But also, I miss that feeling of being in love, the romance, the intimacy, the closeness, butterflies when you’re falling in love, having sex.... I’m 29. I can’t live the rest of my life knowing I’ll never experience that ever again, purely because we have to stay together to be able to financially survive. 

 

香蕉视频app网 So what do I do? I’m trapped!!! 

 

香蕉视频app网 I hate who I’ve turned into. I’m moody all the time, I’ve gotten really fat from comfort eating, I’m not a nice person to be around anymore. I don’t have any friends at all. Literally not one. I don’t have any family, I only had my mum. His family are all abroad and won’t help him either so he can’t financially afford to leave... 

I feel like this is just my life now. I’ve never been so depressed in all my life. I feel so suicidal. I have all these horrible thoughts. I won’t go into detail. But I hate living like this. I don’t know what to do.

If I stay, we can live comfortably with our wages put together, but I’ll never have any type of romance in my life again, and our problems will get worse and worse.

If I leave, I could be happier. I’d be able to have all those things I miss and crave, but I’d lose everything. I’d lose my flat (I’ve lived here for 5 years) id lose all my things I’ve worked so hard to build up. (After I moved to this area, I had nothing after leaving an DV relationship, I had to start again and got all my furniture and possessions myself) I’d lose everything I’ve worked so hard for. 

What do I do?? 😞😞😞

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I'm so sorry about your mom and for all you've been through.  ❤

Do you think you could start looking for a better job? Or maybe a 2nd job? Or more hours at work?  Do you have any allies at work or in your community? Can you look into any kind of assistance- financial or for counseling? 

I think you need to talk to him.  He also needs to work more and get more money to work towards separating. 

From what you wrote, it was a mistake for him to move in. And its would be a mistake to agree to stay together for any reason. But can you work together towards your independence? 

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He’s sleeping in a different room tonight, (his choice) and I’ve just walked in on him watching p*rn and pleasuring himself. The reason I walked in is because I thought I could hear it.. 

He tried to deny that that’s what he was doing, but I knew in my gut what I heard and what I walked into. However quickly he tried to hide it. I knew. After an hour of trying to get it out of him, he eventually admitted that’s what he was doing.

Thing is, a week ago, 2 days after I spent the night in hospital, I woke up to him doing the same thing next to me in bed, while I was asleep. And a few months before that, I caught him doing it in the bathroom. We don’t sleep together anymore and haven’t for a year but I found it disrespectful to do that while I’m in the house. Let alone right next to me while I’m asleep so I said if you’re going to do that, can you just do it when I’m not here. 
he promised he would only do it while I’m out. But he’s broken that promise and done it just hours after our conversation about our relationship. 
 

Am I over reacting? 

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香蕉视频app网 Would it be possible to move back with your mother? 

香蕉视频app网 No sense being with a man who is a thief and a liar. 

You are not responsible for him.  He's a grown adult. 

You need to figure out how to part ways and be responsible for yourself.  Despite this pandemic, hopefully you can find a roommate while taking all the necessary precautions with testing, etc. 

 

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5 minutes ago, Cherylyn said:

香蕉视频app网 Would it be possible to move back with your mother? 

No sense being with a man who is a thief and a liar. 

You are not responsible for him.  He's a grown adult. 

You need to figure out how to part ways and be responsible for yourself.  Despite this pandemic, hopefully you can find a roommate while taking all the necessary precautions with testing, etc. 

 

My mum passed away. 
She was the only family I had. I need to figure something out. I just don’t know what

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3 hours ago, Lambert said:

I'm so sorry about your mom and for all you've been through.  ❤

香蕉视频app网 Do you think you could start looking for a better job? Or maybe a 2nd job? Or more hours at work?  Do you have any allies at work or in your community? Can you look into any kind of assistance- financial or for counseling? 

I think you need to talk to him.  He also needs to work more and get more money to work towards separating. 

From what you wrote, it was a mistake for him to move in. And its would be a mistake to agree to stay together for any reason. But can you work together towards your independence? 

香蕉视频app网 Thankyou x

I was planning on doing a beauty course before the pandemic hit. But obviously those plans have been delayed. I already work full time. 40 hours a week. I could get a night job I guess, but I’d never get any sleep. 
I’m not sure what else I can do other than that. 
 

香蕉视频app网 ive tried to talk to him.. and it never ends well. He gets so manipulative and angry. He gaslights me all the time. 

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7 hours ago, Rellit said:

 him moving in with me after 3 months.

He got sacked from work for theft. I don’t love him anymore. 

Is the place in your name? Start looking for a roommate. That's all you need anyway.

香蕉视频app网 Most of all get to a physician about the severe suicidal thoughts and depression as well as the self-destructive health habits. Get a referral for ongoing support from a qualified therapist.

It's as simple as giving him notice and finding a better roommate.

You're not a homeless shelter for unemployed criminals. That's a conscious choice.. Stop begging for love from someone you simply took in to help with your rent.

 

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7 hours ago, Rellit said:

So what do I do? I’m trapped!!!

Can you rent a room somewhere?

7 hours ago, Rellit said:

I’d lose everything. I’d lose my flat (I’ve lived here for 5 years) id lose all my things I’ve worked so hard to build up. (After I moved to this area, I had nothing after leaving an DV relationship, I had to start again and got all my furniture and possessions myself) I’d lose everything I’ve worked so hard for.

I realize that you've attached some significance to these items. But they are now becoming obstacles to your freedom. Isn't your future happiness more important?

Honestly, I'd sell that stuff or unload it on a charity SO FAST. Like lightning. If it meant a shot at a happier life.

 

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15 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

香蕉视频app网 Can you rent a room somewhere?

It's her place in her name. All she needs to do is give him notice and get a roommate.

Of course the main issue is seeing a doctor immediately for suicidal writing.

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8 hours ago, Rellit said:

 there’s people in this group who I know and I don’t want them to know my business as it’s really personal.

香蕉视频app网 Is this a copy/paste from reddit? All the "trigger" warnings, etc seem like a very dramatic style.

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I know working over 40 hours a week is not ideal but you need to get this guy out. And to do that you might have to do some things you don't want to do. 

I there anyway you can look for a new roommate? Maybe a woman.

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香蕉视频app网 Rellit, from what you wrote in your post, I understand you are from the UK and your boyfriend is an emigrant in the UK. Could you, please, confirm that my reading between the lines is correct?

If yes, then let me tell you, that you have fallen in the classical trap of a good hearted woman who for a little romance and affection, has been tricked to become a sugar mom to a first generation emigrant who has nothing to show and does not integrate well in the local society.

香蕉视频app网 I am living as well abroad for the last 16 years, and am doing well. In my recollection, I can recall at least three times when foreign emigrants' males have tried to move in with me, because they were less lucky than me. This is their modus operandi: find a local, or a foreigner woman who does well, sweep her off her feet and then tell her some sob story that they will be living on the street if you don't take them to live in your home. Women are quiet a sucker for affection, love and saving poor men, so we fall prey. Once these misfits set foot in the woman's home, they quit working, do not contribute anything and become a total leeches. And if you dare say something, they get angry, make a scene and gaslight you. This is what is happening to you. Your guy is not staying with you out of love (like he proclaims), but because you put roof above his head. You are his sugar mommy.

香蕉视频app网 I escaped just e hair thread from doing this mistake when I first arrived here in the west, and was feeling very lonely, not knowing anybody here. I am so thankful that I listened to my gut feeling that something wasn't right when this other emigrant man was so adamant to move in with me, after just a few months, the same like what happened to you.

You have to evict this mooch, call the police if you have to, change the locks. Or else, find a cheaper place and move in without him.

He is clearly bringing you down with him. You have had enough troubles lately, you do not need to be a caregiver to a grown up man who uses you for food and shelter, and treats you badly. You are also behaving like his mother: policing him about his porn use, making him return money back to people he had stolen from. You seem to me like his mother, rather than his gf.

香蕉视频app网 I think your previous Domestic Violence relationship has left some self-esteem issues in you, otherwise I cannot understand why you are still together with a moocher emigrant who is blatantly taking advantage of your resident status.

香蕉视频app网 Good luck 

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1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is this a copy/paste from reddit? All the "trigger" warnings, etc seem like a very dramatic style.

香蕉视频app网 No. I wrote it for an anonymous post on a facebook group but I wasn’t really getting any response so I found this site online and just copied and pasted it to here for advice. 

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37 minutes ago, East4 said:

香蕉视频app网 Rellit, from what you wrote in your post, I understand you are from the UK and your boyfriend is an emigrant in the UK. Could you, please, confirm that my reading between the lines is correct?

If yes, then let me tell you, that you have fallen in the classical trap of a good hearted woman who for a little romance and affection, has been tricked to become a sugar mom to a first generation emigrant who has nothing to show and does not integrate well in the local society.

香蕉视频app网 I am living as well abroad for the last 16 years, and am doing well. In my recollection, I can recall at least three times when foreign emigrants' males have tried to move in with me, because they were less lucky than me. This is their modus operandi: find a local, or a foreigner woman who does well, sweep her off her feet and then tell her some sob story that they will be living on the street if you don't take them to live in your home. Women are quiet a sucker for affection, love and saving poor men, so we fall prey. Once these misfits set foot in the woman's home, they quit working, do not contribute anything and become a total leeches. And if you dare say something, they get angry, make a scene and gaslight you. This is what is happening to you. Your guy is not staying with you out of love (like he proclaims), but because you put roof above his head. You are his sugar mommy.

香蕉视频app网 I escaped just e hair thread from doing this mistake when I first arrived here in the west, and was feeling very lonely, not knowing anybody here. I am so thankful that I listened to my gut feeling that something wasn't right when this other emigrant man was so adamant to move in with me, after just a few months, the same like what happened to you.

You have to evict this mooch, call the police if you have to, change the locks. Or else, find a cheaper place and move in without him.

He is clearly bringing you down with him. You have had enough troubles lately, you do not need to be a caregiver to a grown up man who uses you for food and shelter, and treats you badly. You are also behaving like his mother: policing him about his porn use, making him return money back to people he had stolen from. You seem to me like his mother, rather than his gf.

I think your previous Domestic Violence relationship has left some self-esteem issues in you, otherwise I cannot understand why you are still together with a moocher emigrant who is blatantly taking advantage of your resident status.

Good luck 

He’s not an emigrant. He was born and raised in the uk. He’s white, British. But the only family he has (his mum and brothers) all moved abroad together a few years ago and he stayed behind because his life was here in the uk. 
We live in a studio flat. So we have a kitchen, a bathroom and our living room is also our bedroom. So when I said he’s sleeping in another room, I mean he’s got the blow up bed out and slept in the kitchen. Which was his choice, after our chat he said he wanted to give me space. 
 

He also works full time. He works really hard actually. I couldn’t fault him on that. But where we live is a tourist place. So rent is expensive in this whole area. Just for the studio flat, rent is £700 per month. Council tax is £110 a month. Then we’ve got other bills like water, gas, electric, phone bills, food, toiletries. It all adds up.

We have worked out that on our own, we wouldn’t financially cope. And we can’t just go our separate ways, and move to a cheaper area because we would have too have money to do that. For rent and deposit in advance, then a vehicle to transport our belongings from A to B. 
香蕉视频app网 I don’t have any family I can go off too, and stay with while I sort my life out. And neither does he in the country.

香蕉视频app网 So we are both in a situation. He loves me. I know he does. It’s hard to explain it for people to understand via msg. If you met him, you’d understand.

He would do anything for me, if I needed something, he would go out and get it. Day or night. When I go to work on the weekends, he will clean the whole flat thoroughly so I can come home and relax. He chips in for the bills, pays my phone bill. He put our money together and pay out what needs to be paid. On the weekends when I go to work for a late shift, he will cook me dinner and walk to my work with it so I can have a decent meal. All these things that are his good points. He always wants cuddles and soppy stuff like that. 
It’s just all the bad stuff that’s happened, has taken its toll over the 3 years we’ve been together and that’s caused my feelings to change. 
I no longer feel in love with him. And the way he is sometimes is too much. 
Like the porn, like the moods, like the stealing and lying. I’ve tried so hard to help him turn his life around because he has been through a lot of trauma in his life. But I just can’t help him anymore. I care about him as a person. I wouldn’t want to hurt him or see him hurting, but I’m just not in love with him anymore. 

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3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

香蕉视频app网 Is the place in your name? Start looking for a roommate. That's all you need anyway.

Most of all get to a physician about the severe suicidal thoughts and depression as well as the self-destructive health habits. Get a referral for ongoing support from a qualified therapist.

香蕉视频app网 It's as simple as giving him notice and finding a better roommate.

香蕉视频app网 You're not a homeless shelter for unemployed criminals. That's a conscious choice.. Stop begging for love from someone you simply took in to help with your rent.

 

We live in a studio flat. So we have a kitchen, a bathroom and our living room is also our bedroom. So when I said he’s sleeping in another room, I mean he’s got the blow up bed out and slept in the kitchen. Which was his choice, after our chat he said he wanted to give me space. So I wouldn’t be able to get a roommate. 
 

He also works full time. He works really hard actually. I couldn’t fault him on that. But where we live is a tourist place. So rent is expensive in this whole area. Just for the studio flat, rent is £700 per month. Council tax is £110 a month. Then we’ve got 香蕉视频app网other bills like water, gas, electric, phone bills, food, toiletries. It all adds up.

We have worked out that on our own, we wouldn’t financially cope. And we can’t just go our separate ways, and move to a cheaper area because we would have to have money to do that. For rent and deposit in advance, then a vehicle to transport our belongings from A to B. 
I don’t have any family I can go off too, and stay with while I sort my life out. And neither does he in the country.

So we are both in a situation. He loves me. I know he does. It’s hard to explain it for people to understand via msg. If you met him, you’d understand.

He would do anything for me, if I needed something, he would go out and get it. Day or night. When I go to work on the weekends, he will clean the whole flat thoroughly so I can come home and relax. He chips in for the bills, pays my phone bill. He put our money together and pay out what needs to be paid. On the weekends when I go to work for a late shift, he will cook me dinner and walk to my work with it so I can have a decent meal. All these things that are his good points. He always wants cuddles and soppy stuff like that. 
It’s just all the bad stuff that’s happened, has taken its toll over the 3 years we’ve been together and that’s caused my feelings to change. 
I no longer feel in love with him. And the way he is sometimes is too much. 
Like the porn, like the moods, like the stealing and lying. I’ve tried so hard to help him turn his life around because he has been through a lot of trauma in his life. But I just can’t help him anymore. I care about him as a person. I wouldn’t want to hurt him or see him hurting, but I’m just not in love with him anymore. 

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1 hour ago, Lambert said:

I know working over 40 hours a week is not ideal but you need to get this guy out. And to do that you might have to do some things you don't want to do. 

I there anyway you can look for a new roommate? Maybe a woman.

I live in a studio flat. So we have a kitchen, and a bathroom, but our living room is also our bedroom. He took the blow up bed and slept in the kitchen last night to give me some space. His choice. So I can’t get a roommate because they wouldn’t have their own room. 
But where we live is a tourist place. So rent is expensive in this whole area. Just for the studio flat, rent is £700 per month. Council tax is £110 a month. Then we’ve got other bills like water, gas, electric, phone bills, food, toiletries. It all adds up.

We have worked out that on our own, we wouldn’t financially cope. And we can’t just go our separate ways, and move to a cheaper area because we would have to have money to do that. For rent and deposit in advance, then a vehicle to transport our belongings from A to B. 
I don’t have any family I can go off too, and stay with while I sort my life out. And neither does he in the country. With our money put together, we can both afford to live comfortably. But apart, we would both be in really bad situations.  He works full time, and so do I. But we both get roughly £900 a month each from our wages. Together that’s perfect. But separate, it doesn’t cover everything. 
I know I’d be able to pay my rent and bills, no problems. But I would only be left with £20 for the whole month to buy food and toiletries with. Let’s be honest, that’s not going to stretch. 

Ive spoken to the job centre and council about benefits, and I’m not entitled to help because I work full time. So I don’t know what to do. 
Ive also considered giving the flat up and moving in a shared house, renting a room. But even rooms to rent are expensive these days. It took me by surprise. I was finding rooms to rent, being near enough the same price a month as the rent I’m paying now. This is just so hard. How do people do it on their own?! 😭😫

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2 hours ago, Jibralta said:

Can you rent a room somewhere?

I realize that you've attached some significance to these items. But they are now becoming obstacles to your freedom. Isn't your future happiness more important?

香蕉视频app网 Honestly, I'd sell that stuff or unload it on a charity SO FAST. Like lightning. If it meant a shot at a happier life.

 

I’ve looked at rooms to rent and I was so surprised at the prices. Years ago, before I got this flat, I used to rent rooms in shared houses and the price was always around £300/£400 a month. Which was affordable. But now, they’re near enough the same price as my rent for the flat. I couldn’t believe how much they were.. it took me by complete surprise. I’d be no better off. That’s why I’m completely stuck. 
 

My belongings aren’t obstacles. What I was saying is, the only way I’d be able to survive for a little while at least, would be to sell things each month to cover anything that needed paying for. Eventually I’d be left with nothing. Which I don’t want. I don’t want to have to sell my things to be able to survive for a couple of months before I eventually lose my flat anyway. 

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Rellit, thank you for clarifying, I was mistaken in my assumptions.

香蕉视频app网 Look, with COVID now everywhere in Europe it is hard to plan big changes. And from what you write, I see there are positive aspects of your relationship too. Perhaps wait for sometime until life returns to normal with the roll-out of vaccination. In the meantime, is there a possibility to talk to a psychologist, or social worker about the unhappy events that happened to you in the last two years? I guess these tragic events play a big role in how you feel, so the only problem is not your relationship. The point is to deal with what you can deal with at the moment, one thing at the time.  

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I don't see a single "positive" about this relationship.

香蕉视频app网 I would recommend searching for a room to rent and then put whatever you can't fit into a storage unit until you can save up enough for your own place.

I currently don't have my own place. I am renting a room and have my things in storage. I went from paying $1700 per month US to $500 per month US. I have been able to save some money and will soon be moving out into a shared rental.

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You can work a part time job on your days off. When I was in my mid 20's I worked two jobs 0ne full time, one part time, also did house cleaning jobs on Sundays. I didn't have a day off. I just wanted to get money in my bank account. I did this for about 6 months straight, then off and on til I got a better paying job. You can ask to take on a double shift or work overtime, or work another job for 4 hours after your regular shift and still have time to watch a show, eat and go to bed. It's a pandemic...what else are you going to do with your time? You may as well work your a$$ off.

Once you have your $$ you can look for a new place that someone is looking for a roommate, and put your stuff in storage OR kick him out, and while you look for a roommate you will have all that money you have made to hold you over til you do find someone.

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香蕉视频app网 I'd keep close tabs on your mental health and keep in touch or seek support if you need to speak with someone. Check out your local community. There are organizations that might help and therapists charging on a sliding scale or willing to work with you according to your budget. Steer clear of unhealthy eating. You can eat cheap and healthy without spending large amounts on processed foods or other types of prepackaged foods. Look at what's in-season or locally sourced. An indoor herb garden (packets of seeds are couple of dollars) and use old plastic strawberry containers for example from the grocery store. You don't need fancy growing supplies to create an indoor starter herb garden. Just a window and a recycled old container will do. Or a box and punch holes in it with scissors. This might motivate you to create healthier meals at home. Healthy body, healthy mind. 

Find another side gig or part time work to cover the few hundred dollars needed for food and incidentals or other bills. I think you'll feel better if you're more self-sufficient and don't need to depend on him to pay the bills. There's emotional attachment there which I understand. When you're ready you'll find a way. It takes a lot of courage and effort. Keep us updated. 

 

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5 hours ago, Rose Mosse said:

I'd keep close tabs on your mental health and keep in touch or seek support if you need to speak with someone. Check out your local community. There are organizations that might help and therapists charging on a sliding scale or willing to work with you according to your budget. Steer clear of unhealthy eating. You can eat cheap and healthy without spending large amounts on processed foods or other types of prepackaged foods. Look at what's in-season or locally sourced. An indoor herb garden (packets of seeds are couple of dollars) and use old plastic strawberry containers for example from the grocery store. You don't need fancy growing supplies to create an indoor starter herb garden. Just a window and a recycled old container will do. Or a box and punch holes in it with scissors. This might motivate you to create healthier meals at home. Healthy body, healthy mind. 

Find another side gig or part time work to cover the few hundred dollars needed for food and incidentals or other bills. I think you'll feel better if you're more self-sufficient and don't need to depend on him to pay the bills. There's emotional attachment there which I understand. When you're ready you'll find a way. It takes a lot of courage and effort. Keep us updated. 

 

Thankyou! I really like the idea of growing my own herbs. So I think I will actually do that! Thankyou! 
 

And I wanted to do a beauty course before the first lockdown hit. And my plan was to become fully qualified and take clients at my home. Doing lashes, brows, nails. That type of thing. I’m still waiting to be able to do that because once I’m qualified, that would really help me with a bit of extra cash 

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